Who do you love more?

Had this pillow talk with Ian last night.

Me: Do you love daddy?
Ian: Yes.
Me: Do you love mommy?
Ian: Yes.
Me: Who do you love more? mommy or daddy?
Ian: Mommy and daddy.
Me: No.... choose one only. Mommy or daddy?
Ian: Mommy and daddy.
Me: Do you know what is choose one only?
Ian: Mommy (paused).............. and daddy.
Me: (decided not to push my luck.) Good. Both mommy and daddy love you too.

I know it is not healthy to have this conversation to make him choose one. Curious lah. Just wanna see what goes on in his little mind.

Ian learns to buckle up

Ian has learned how to buckle himself in the car. But sometimes he still need help to buckle up. HOORAY! Now I don't need to help him buckle up.

Ryan

Potential Worship Leader 2

Previously, we caught Ian secretly on camera pretending to lead worship on my bed. That was posted on this blog awhile back.

This time, he played the guitar with full knowledge that I was recording it on camera. Surprisingly, he was not camera shy.



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Once upon a time....

Ian loves bedtime stories.

2 nights ago, I wanted to hug him in my bed but he refused to come to me.

Me: Ian, come. Daddy wants to hug you.
Ian: No, I want to sleep already.
Me: Come, just for awhile?

Ian kept silent and pretended to sleep despite my repeated request. So I pretended I was going to start telling a story by saying out loud...

Me: Once upon a time..... (just these 4 words)

Ian quickly came to lie beside me.

Me: What are you doing here? Thought you said you are going to sleep already?
Ian: But you asked me to come what?
Me: Is it? Ok. Lets sleep.
Ian: No... tell me story!

It was a win-win situation. I got to hug him and he got his bedtime story.

Parent-Teacher session

Attended a parent-teacher session at Ryan's school this morning. Met his form teacher and Chinese teacher separately.

As usual, such sessions are devoted to discussing ways to co-operate with the school to improve the students. Hence, we normally emphasise those areas that need improvements. Ryan is generally a good boy and academically competent but...........................
















Comments from his form teacher

Ryan is one of the quieter boys in class. He is more comfortable in the company of the quieter girls than the boisterous guys. He is not as competitive also. For example, while queueing up for a race, he has no problems if anyone cuts his queue. She said he is the "gentleman" type. Always giving in. We need to toughen him up in case he gets bullied. And bullying is common in school nowadays.


He has potential to do better than his current results. Most of the marks lost are due to carelessness. He should have achieved band one for both English and Maths if he bother to check his papers before submission. She felt he hasn't matured to know the importance of studies yet. He needs to mature by next semester because it's streaming time. The final year results will affect his postings for next year.
















Comments from his Chinese teacher

Ryan is forgetful. His first comments revolve around Ryan not bringing books and assessments to school repeatedly. He also mentioned Ryan is quick to lose concentration in class. He likes to chat with the girl next to him.

He has no other problems with Ryan since he has scored well for Chinese. I feel the tuition has helped considering we speak more English at home.

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Today is the start of the mid-year school holidays. Ryan is suffering from some stomach flu. He visited the toilet 8 times yesterday and has a fever. Mommy has brought him to the doctor and he is resting at home now.

Teaching Ian how to share

My sis-in-law (eldest) has the "honour" of picking up Ian and his 3 cousins from the same childcare nightly after work. She will then drop Ian at my place before sending the rest to my in-law's home.

Mommy bought a kids CD on Sunday. It's meant for the 4 boys to enjoy nightly when travelling in the car.

Unfortunately, Ian is not letting go of the CD. He brought it to school today and insisted he will bring it home tonight after listening to it in the car.

Both mommy and I "counselled" him but he insisted the CD belongs to him. He said he will bring it to and fro daily. Lets see whether he really bring it home tonight.

Sigh... we still need to work harder and teach Ian how to share.

No gameboy

I just heard Ryan did not get band 1 for both English and Maths.

Too bad, no gameboy for him.

Mother's day card

See what Ryan wrote in the mother's day card he made for mommy.

I love you because you
take care of me and teach me
homework
I love you because you
let me go playground
after school, play
computer and watch
TV on Friday - Sunday.
I like you because
you sometimes
let me buy things
that I want.

I wonder what he will say about me in my Father's day card. What reasons will he quote for loving me???

Great anticipation. I feel like I am waiting for my report card as a father from my son. Ha ha.

Exchange of siblings

Ian is much older now and as expected, both boys "quarrel"and "fight" over the slightest issues very frequently. In the past, Ian was younger and it was always big bully small.

I remember in the past I bought both a packet of twisties. Ryan finished his packet while Ian has a lot more to go. Ryan wanted more and "offered" to hold the packet for his little brother.

Ryan: I hold for you only!
Ian: Ok

Of course, Ryan will start eating Ian's twisties. Now that Ian is older, no way man! He can hold himself!

I like to watch from the side when they "quarrel". You can tell their characters from the way they argue. Sometimes, they have no valid case and it's funny how they can bulldoze their way to get what they want from the other party. The one with the valid case actually gave in. To be fair, they take turns to be "unreasonable'.

Last night, I bought 2 mango pudding for them. I "lied" that I will eat one of them and the remaining one will be given to the one who finished his dinner first. Both are slow eaters. And I mean, very very slow. Of course, they bargained. Both assumed they will lose out.

So I said they can make an agreement to share the remaining mango pudding. This way, it doesn't matter who finish the dinner first. Both disagreed because they get to eat only half. They wanted the whole pudding! Both started debating with each other why the other one should give up his share. Very funny.

In the end, they had one pudding each.

I can't remember what happened but they quarrelled again later.

Ryan: I don't like Ian!
Ian: I also don't like you.
Me: Ok lor, I give Ian away. Exchange with gu gu (my sis). I will bring home Joycelyn.
Ryan: No.
Me: Then I exchange with xiao ah yee (my youngest sis-in-law), I will bring home Miki?
Ryan: No
Me: Ok. Then I exchange with ta yee (eldest sis-in-law), bring home Joel?
(Ryan's eyes popped up)
Ryan: ok ok.....

According to Ryan, Joel is his favourite cousin (out of 10).

Chinese results - band 1

Ryan has received his chinese results.

73/80 for the main paper and 8/10 for listening comprehension.

That's good. The tuition pays off.

So he has achieved one band 1 to his credit and 2 more to go before he can ask for the gameboy.

Robin and exams

Ryan has finished his exams yesterday. At last!

I asked him that day how was his maths paper.

Me: How was the paper today?
Ryan: Very good.
Me: Really? That's good. You know how to do all the questions?
Ryan: No
Me: Then?
Ryan: The paper has my name.
Me: What do you mean?
Ryan: One of the questions has my name.

Apparently, his name was used in one of the problem sums. That's why the paper was good!??

Ian has recovered from his fever but he is no longer Batman. He is now Robin. Why? He says Robin more handsome.

Fever

Batman is sick at home. Cannot fly.....

Batman and exams

Ryan is in the midst of his exams. It will be over by Tuesday (9 May). He has been studying quite hard (my view). Maybe 50% of his free time? He still gets to play but I think he is studying much harder than when I was in primary 2! Heard him reciting the multiplication-tables earlier.

It is hard to draw the line between "being kiasu" and "being responsible". If we do not discipline him and educate him on the importance of studies, who else will? He is only 8. He doesn't know the significance yet.

Credit must be given to mommy. She has been preparing him. I don't think there is too much pressure. Just doing some assessments and stuffs.

My contribution? I promised him a gameboy if he gets all band 1 for English, Maths and Chinese. Some may say my expectations are too high but he has already scored band 1 for both Maths and Chinese as well as a band 2 for English in his recent tests. I am hoping the incentive can motivate him to work a little harder.

Mommy wasn't too pleased at first. She thinks gameboy is addictive. I explained we can use this as a tool to teach discipline. Let him play only on certain days under certain conditions. She agreed.

What has Ian been doing recently? He has been wrapping his pyjamas pants round his neck the last few days without fail, both day and night. He is batman. Jumping from sofa to table and table to floor....

Guess we should let Ian fantasise/play as much as he can before he starts school.